Everyone is a Mirror Game

Are you good at games?
Let's play a game. Let's play the Everyone is a Mirror Game.

The instructions
1. You pick anyone/everyone and you treat them like a mirror, and you find 1 thing that he/she is or has done that you have done, or do, or are/was. 
2. The next step is to continuously find more deeper and deeper points.
3. Then you challenge yourself by picking the people you resist the most, the people you judge/say are so unlike, people that you react or dislike, and you find something that you are or have been that they are, or at least how you perceive them to be.

You do this with everyone/anyone. The people you think about, everyone you have ever met. Make sure that you are willing to see them, in your mind without resistance, because you have seen that yes, I have done the same as you, somewhere, somehow.


This is one of my favorite games, and is fun. It is challenging, especially when you get to people that you don't like. In essence the philosophy that is operating here is that everyone is the same, or everyone is a mirror for you. Everyone simply reflects back to you, yourself. Are you good at games?

Who you are within is who you are without

So in demonstrating this principle: Who you are within is who you are without, I will use a practical example.
Something I have done throughout my life is to try to take responsibility for other people, a practical example is in what they learn, what they do, whether correctly or not.
What I have seen within me is that I accept and allow the mind to take responsibility for me.
So the within is creating the without.
So in every small moment where I look to the mind to give me answers, feedback, information, observations, I am not taking responsibility for me. By doing this, I live out, consequently, the taking of other people's responsibility.
Who I am, determines what I do.
So why is this harmful? Practically it is not possible to take the responsibility for another person in who they are. The same goes with the mind. Practically, the mind cannot take responsibility for me. So what happens when we try to live this way? The result is that we bring about disruption in ourselves and each others lives. We do not operate well when we are not the ones taking responsibility for ourselves individually. It is simply not an effective or efficient way to live. We will always be less than what we can be. The solution then is simple, to take responsibility for ourselves/myself. To not be in a state where our first reaction is to seek for someone else or something else's support/answer. But instead our first RESPONSE is to find a solution/answer to the problem by looking at the problem, and seeing if there is a solution. This is something we each can do. And when we stop doing this, we forget we can do this, and we become trusting and dependent on something or someone else. We then become the word disempowered, simply because we have separated ourselves from our power or ability to solve problems and provide answers from simply looking at problem. If you look back into your earliest memories, you might see what I mean, especially if you have forgotten this ability of yours. You can easily see it in young children. Every child learns an entire language, all without being taught how to.

We are all dots connected to one another

Everything in existence can be made into a point. So I am a point, the television is a point, the neighbor’s dog is a point, etc… We and everything are points. Each point has a relationship with all the other points. You can image a blank page with many black dots, and lines connecting all the dots to one another. The lines are our specific, individual relationships. Who we are, and perhaps the totality of who we are is determined by all of our relationships. In addition, our relationship to ourself is a direct reflection of our relationship with all the points. So if there is self-anger, that will be reflected in all the relationships, for example. You can observe for yourself, and reflect on your own experiences to see whether this is the case for you.

The realization that all one has to do is focus on one’s relationships to everything, simplifies things, at least for me it does, because I am aware now how how I relate to my mom, my dogs, etc… whoever or whatever is really reflecting me, myself. That’s useful especially if one is interested in finding our who one is. You know, that eternal question, who am I? haha.

It also supports me to see the bigger picture, that we are all just points, and we relate, individually, to everything equally. That’s pretty cool. 

 What can we take practically from this observation? 

-We must examine our relationships closely with all things, people, animals, plants etc... in order to find out who we are. 

-How I act, how I talk, how I speak, behave, what I observe, all of what happens in the moment as me, reflects who I am.

-If I were to change who I am, this means literally changing how I relate to everything, so that requires an examination of my relationships.

-I realize that the "other" in the relationships, so all the other dots that exist, don't have to change, because by me changing I already change our relationship, which is a line that is between us. I realize that this may inevitably cause change in all the points I relate to, because we do share a line and that line has changed.